" I want to feel your body when your orgasming and watch your eyes roll back in your head."
That was a message I received from a friend. My reply to this seemed rather insightful to me, so I decided to add it to my writings in order to get some opinion from the NTN community. My reply:
"That is so satisfying to me also.
To feel my lover's whole-body contractions, see their facial expressions of pure ecstasy, hear them (moaning, grunting, giggling?), smell the pheromones oozing from their pores, tasting their sweat and ejaculations, all the while holding them, trying to be "one" with them and capture some of their essence into my own being. All five senses
I recently had an encounter where my lover was feeling sorry for me that I had never reached orgasm during our allotted time for play. I assured him that his "sharing" of his own orgasm was sooo satisfying to me! I was the one who should be feeling sorry for him. I hadn't given him the same.
I realized I was feeling satisfied and content without ever reaching climax and he was leaving feeling somewhat unsatisfied even though he HAD reached orgasm. The concept of your own orgasm being the sign of one's sexual satisfaction is misconstrued. You don't need to "get off" to have a truly satisfying sexual encounter, and similarly, "getting off" is not a true measure of satisfaction."
-Mikki |