This is going to be lengthy and if you are the type of person who can't tolerate a little constructive criticism you probably don't want to read this.
I am a tall good-looking white guy in my 50s. Straight looking and acting. Versatile, but more of a top. I have a nice size cut cock and no problems getting hard or cumming.
I read the T4M ads a lot, especially when travelling. I've met some great gurls off of craigslist and had lots of fun and I expect to continue to do so.
Ladies, you want what you want. I get that and you're entitled to it but you may find that a bit of flexibility serves you well. Some examples:
"I WANT A 100% STRAIGHT MAN" I'm not going to answer that ad. Because, even though I look and act straight, I know that I am into transwomen and so I cannot be 100% straight. Think about it, do you really think that any 100% straight men are reading T4M ads?
"I AM A BOTTOM SO YOU HAVE TO BE A TOTAL TOP" Again, I'm not going to reply. I can be a top while we're together but I have bottomed and enjoyed it so I can't say I am a TOTAL TOP so I can't answer your ad. If you are a bottom, fine. Go ahead and say so, then I know what is expected of me. But I can't claim to always be a top.
"I AM PASSABLE" Really? You can walk into a crowded room and no one in that room will even suspect that you have a dick? If that is true, good for you. But it is rarely true. I've met with CDs who call themselves passable who were obviously a man in a dress and not passable at all. It's okay, few of us are looking for 100% passable. If we were, we would date genetic women. If you want to say that you are "convincing" as a woman, fine. But 100% passable is a rarity and if you make that claim you may be setting yourself up for a disappointment.
"MUST BE UNDER 40" Well, I am in my 50s so I won't answer that ad. It doesn't matter that I look younger, have the body and stamina of a much younger man. You've put a hard limit on the age so I have to pass.
LAUNDRY LIST OF "MUSTs" BUT NOTHING ABOUT WHAT YOU OFFER I will never reply to an ad with a list of demands but no indication of what I can look forward to. Even if I meet all the demands. Sell yourself a bit, make me want to meet you.
If you've read this far, good for you. Obviously you are someone open to suggestions and that is a good thing. I guess the basic theme of this "rant" is that we all benefit from a bit of flexibility and openness. I mean, there's nothing wrong with specifying deal-breakers if you have some (NON-SMOKER, TALL, NOT OVERWEIGHT, etc.) You want what you want and I think you are entitled to it. But if there is some flexibility in your wants and needs, I think you will get a much better response.
Food for thought; your mileage may vary.
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